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| AN ODE TO BEE & BEN |
A thought passed through my mind as I witnessed recently a beautiful wedding . Those vows said by millions in front of their supreme faith, or just between themselves, hold weight in increments of decades together, are never truly valued at the time the vows were first made.
I witnessed a blooming love affair three years ago when my young friend brought over her "stray-beach find" in the form of an introduction to me. To test an open minded friend/relative, before the parental definitive acceptance. For this was an interracial relationship, as is my own.
My silent instant reaction was "if you think you can engage yourself in these people's lives, you need to step up and show what you are made of". My loud and vocal reaction was, "hell yeah, enjoy yourselves".
Last week the not so young but dashing man, at their wedding, did one important action of showing his love, devotion to all. By demonstrating his seriousness in protecting and loving his bride with one impressive action alone; he properly learnt to speak the Thai language in making an eloquent speech showing true commitment and understanding.
Linguistically gifted aside, apart from his native New Zealand twang, he spoke fluent French. Through language, he has understood and accepted the many layers of the culture, tradition and remained his true self. This is a beautiful platform in the longevity of married life in respecting each ridiculousness of tradition or custom that appears irrational.
Shared ups and downs, journeying through crevices of disappointments; and peaks of success; good health and illness's and inevitable old age. Arriving at this juncture, I have witnessed true commitment and the uniting of two cultures regardless of how others perceive. Be true to yourselves and let no one, culture or tradition come into your four walls.
There are no secrets to a happy marriage. To each his own. There lies only one important factor. Through time, the silent vow to yourself, or to your supreme faith, is held accountable only by you. Instead of the many congratulations, jubilations, and overwhelming love that the couple have received, I offer my deep belief on taking this important step to last -
I witnessed a blooming love affair three years ago when my young friend brought over her "stray-beach find" in the form of an introduction to me. To test an open minded friend/relative, before the parental definitive acceptance. For this was an interracial relationship, as is my own.
My silent instant reaction was "if you think you can engage yourself in these people's lives, you need to step up and show what you are made of". My loud and vocal reaction was, "hell yeah, enjoy yourselves".
Last week the not so young but dashing man, at their wedding, did one important action of showing his love, devotion to all. By demonstrating his seriousness in protecting and loving his bride with one impressive action alone; he properly learnt to speak the Thai language in making an eloquent speech showing true commitment and understanding.
Linguistically gifted aside, apart from his native New Zealand twang, he spoke fluent French. Through language, he has understood and accepted the many layers of the culture, tradition and remained his true self. This is a beautiful platform in the longevity of married life in respecting each ridiculousness of tradition or custom that appears irrational.
Shared ups and downs, journeying through crevices of disappointments; and peaks of success; good health and illness's and inevitable old age. Arriving at this juncture, I have witnessed true commitment and the uniting of two cultures regardless of how others perceive. Be true to yourselves and let no one, culture or tradition come into your four walls.
There are no secrets to a happy marriage. To each his own. There lies only one important factor. Through time, the silent vow to yourself, or to your supreme faith, is held accountable only by you. Instead of the many congratulations, jubilations, and overwhelming love that the couple have received, I offer my deep belief on taking this important step to last -
